October 27, 2010

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"If you limit your thoughts, you are basically limiting God's
power.  You're saying that He isn't powerful enough to make
you rich.  And thinking your place is with the middle, or
lower, class, is simply doing the same."
- Andrew "The Maestro" Massaro

"The 100/0 Principle" and the MAGIC behind it.

The other night I get a text message from my good buddy at SREC - Josh Cantwell. I was part of his coaching program a few years back and we developed a pretty good personal relationship. So he tells me last week of "The 100/0 Principle" by Alfred Ritter. When he first mentioned it I didn't fully understand it. To me it sounded like giving my all and getting NOTHING in return lol. Well Josh knows me and knows I don't like not being in the know so-to-speak, so he sent me the link so I could read it myself. And let me tell you - I WAS BLOWN AWAY! I'm Christian man so I understand the whole principle of being more like Jesus and washing others feet and so on, and so on, but I don't care who you are, how good of person you believe yourself to be - that's tough to do. However, when I read Mr. Ritter's work I gained a whole new understanding behind "doing without expecting" and how in the end you actually WILL get something in return. Actually, you'll get MORE than you ever could expect in return. I won't bore you with my rambling any longer. I've taken the same excerpt Josh initially showed me, which he then sent out the his whole mailing list because we were both so blown away. Hope you enjoy it and HOPEFULLY, you'll apply it ;-).

 

God bless & Stay fresh people, Johnny C.

 

An excerpt from The 100/0 Principle by Al Ritter:

What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It's The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.

Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.

The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.

STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.
STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.

At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner." Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.

Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!

Principle Paradox
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.